50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind...

These questions have no right or wrong answers.
Because sometimes asking the right questions is the answer.
  1. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
  2. Which is worse, failing or never trying?
  3. If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?
  4. When it’s all said and done, will you have said more than you’ve done?
  5. What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?
  6. If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?
  7. Are you doing what you believe in, or are you settling for what you are doing?
  8. If the average human life span was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?
  9. To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken?
  10. Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?
  11. You’re having lunch with three people you respect and admire.  They all start criticizing a close friend of yours, not knowing she is your friend.  The criticism is distasteful and unjustified.  What do you do?
  12. If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?
  13. Would you break the law to save a loved one?
  14. Have you ever seen insanity where you later saw creativity?
  15. What’s something you know you do differently than most people?
  16. How come the things that make you happy don’t make everyone happy?
  17. What one thing have you not done that you really want to do?  What’s holding you back?
  18. Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?
  19. If you had to move to a state or country besides the one you currently live in, where would you move and why?
  20. Do you push the elevator button more than once?  Do you really believe it makes the elevator faster?
  21. Would you rather be a worried genius or a joyful simpleton?
  22. Why are you, you?
  23. Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend?
  24. Which is worse, when a good friend moves away, or losing touch with a good friend who lives right near you?
  25. What are you most grateful for?
  26. Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones?
  27. Is is possible to know the truth without challenging it first?
  28. Has your greatest fear ever come true?
  29. Do you remember that time 5 years ago when you were extremely upset?  Does it really matter now?
  30. What is your happiest childhood memory?  What makes it so special?
  31. At what time in your recent past have you felt most passionate and alive?
  32. If not now, then when?
  33. If you haven’t achieved it yet, what do you have to lose?
  34. Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever?
  35. Why do religions that support love cause so many wars?
  36. Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil?
  37. If you just won a million dollars, would you quit your job?
  38. Would you rather have less work to do, or more work you actually enjoy doing?
  39. Do you feel like you’ve lived this day a hundred times before?
  40. When was the last time you marched into the dark with only the soft glow of an idea you strongly believed in?
  41. If you knew that everyone you know was going to die tomorrow, who would you visit today?
  42. Would you be willing to reduce your life expectancy by 10 years to become extremely attractive or famous?
  43. What is the difference between being alive and truly living?
  44. When is it time to stop calculating risk and rewards, and just go ahead and do what you know is right?
  45. If we learn from our mistakes, why are we always so afraid to make a mistake?
  46. What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?
  47. When was the last time you noticed the sound of your own breathing?
  48. What do you love?  Have any of your recent actions openly expressed this love?
  49. In 5 years from now, will you remember what you did yesterday?  What about the day before that?  Or the day before that?
  50. Decisions are being made right now.  The question is:  Are you making them for yourself, or are you letting others make them for you?

A Walk to Remember...

Labels:
If you are a fan of the author Nicholas Sparks, you will love the movie A Walk to Remember. Based on Sparks's novel by the same name, the movie is a romantic saga of love, sacrifice, and happiness. You will be touched by Mandy Moore's brilliant portrayal of Jamie. Shane West (Landon Carter) also grabs eyeballs for his passionate performance.Fall in love with these A Walk to Remember quotes.

“You can never understand why people do stupid things for love unless you, yourself, experience how it is to be in love.”

`INSPIRATION - I was so in love with him for a long time. He means everything to me. We’re like one of those couples in Nicholas Sparks’ books. He make me laugh for some non-sense reasons, his weirdness, he inspires me a lot. Indeed, I was so in love, in love with a guy I can’t even call MINE.

`FRIENDSHIP - Despite our differences, disagreements. There’s some reason why the two of us met. I could tell you he’s the only one who can make me laugh even in my worst mood. He will do anything just to cheer me up, the one I shared my secrets without being judged. We’re so close, even our parents agree on our friendship. He’s a trusted friend.




`LOVERS - He’s everything I want. There’s something about him that drives me crazy. Whenever we kiss, I was nervous but whenever he smile while we’re kissing makes me feel comfortable with him. When we slept together, the way he hug me so tight. It was the best feeling ever. It makes me feel like he never want to let go. Waking up in the morning seeing the one you love sleeping while his arms around you. Priceless moment ever! 


`LETTING GO 
- It hurts like hell, watching the one you love, love someone else. When he told me he already got a Girlfriend and I was like “Congrats.” but deep inside it breaks my heart into pieces. I admit I cried, well always after the revelation. I kept asking myself, “Am I really not that good enough for him?” Everything has been changed now.



`MOVING ON - Moving on…. how can you exactly move on when you were still in love with that person? How can you move on when your true friends were his friends too? How can you move on when you were so close to his family and your family was looking for him too? How can you move on when everything around you reminds of him?



`LIFE GOES ON
 - I’m scared of not being with him and I still can’t accept it. But I’m distancing myself from him. I know I was so wrong for letting my world revolves around with just the two of us. So I’m setting myself free, to meet others.

http://data.whicdn.com/images/4632705/tumblr_l9o6p68Ow61qb5xtdo1_500_thumb.jpg

If the two of us wants to be together, it will take time, patience & effort. So we can create a good relationship.

Somewhere in the middle of those conversation...

Labels:
"Somewhere in the middle of those conversation...
I fell in love with you....
Being from strangers to friends..
Then from gossips to sharing secrets..
Don't know when I started to like you..
From those arguments to fights..
From those likes to dislikes..
From laughs to cries..
I did share many beautiful moments with you..

Somewhere in middle of those conversation..
I fell in love with you..
Don't know how the time passed.....
for hours of conversations used to last...

'n today it has been ages we talked...
Now you have girl by your side...

Tomorrow I would be someone else's bride
So today I wanna tell you this was something I did "hide"..
"Yeah somewhere in d middle of those conversation...
I fell in love with you..
'n for the Rest of my life..
I will cherish my relation with You.. !!

Around the corner i have a friend...

Labels:
Around the corner i have a friend..
Around the corner i have a friend,
That has no end.Yes the days go by 'n weeks rush on,
'n before i know it,A year is gone.
'n i never see my old friend's face,
For life is a terrible race.Tomorrow i say,i will call you,
juse to show that i am thinking for you.
But tomorrw comes 'n Goes
'n distance between us grows 'n grows.

Around the corner,yet miles away,
here's telegram sir,Your friend died today!

'n that's what We deserve 'n get in the end,
Around the corner,A vanished friend.

REMEMBER 2 SAY WHAT YOU HAVE TO,
I WANNA SAY,"EVEN IF I M BAD ALWAYS BE MY FRIEND"

I saw your face today...

Labels:
I saw your face today,in the face of a stranger..
but when i looked Again,you weren't there anymore..

I heard your voice today,in the middle of crowd..
I Turned around to listen,but did not hear your sound..

I felt your touch today,in the blowing wind
I clung to that moment,held it to its end..

I cried over You today,Drowned in my own sorrow
Then i came to realize
there is always a tomorrow..
there is always a tomorrow..!!
This is all how i feel..
but You're always ON in my mind. !!

10 Signs it’s Time to Let Go...

Holding on is being brave, but letting go and moving on is often what makes us stronger and happier.

Here are ten signs it’s time to let go:

  1. Someone expects you to be someone you’re not.– Don’t change who you are for anyone else.  It’s wiser to lose someone over being who you are, than to keep them by being someone you’re not.  Because it’s easier to mend a broken heart, than it is to piece together a shattered identity.  It’s easier to fill an empty space in your life where someone else used to be, than it is to fill the empty space inside yourself where YOU used to be.

  2. A person’s actions don’t match their words.– Everybody deserves somebody who helps them look forward to tomorrow.  If someone has the opposite effect on you, because they are consistently inconsistent and their actions don’t match up with their words, it’s time to let them go.  It’s always better to be alone than to be in bad company.  True friendship is a promise made in the heart – silent, unwritten, unbreakable by distance, and unchangeable by time.  Don’t listen to what people say; watch what they do.  Your true friends will slowly reveal themselves over time.

  3. You catch yourself forcing someone to love you.
    – Let us keep in mind that we can’t force anyone to love us.
    We shouldn’t beg someone to stay when they want to leave.  That’s what love is all about – freedom.  However, the end of love is not the end of life.  It should be the beginning of an understanding that love sometimes leaves for a reason, but never leaves without a lesson.  If someone truly loves you, they will never give you a reason to doubt it.  Anyone can come into your life and say how much they love you, but it takes someone really special to stay in your life and prove how much they love you.  Sometimes it takes awhile to find the right person, but the right person is always worth the wait.


  4. An intimate relationship is based strictly on physical attraction.
    – Being beautiful is more than how many people you can get to look at you, or how others perceive you at a single glance.  It’s about what you live for.  It’s about what defines you.  It’s about the depth of your heart, and what makes you unique.  It’s about being who you are and living out your life honestly.  It’s about those little quirks that make you, you.  People who are only attracted to you because of your pretty face or nice body won’t stay by your side forever.  But the people who can see how beautiful your heart is will never leave you.

  5. Someone continuously breaks your trust.
    – Love means giving someone the chance to hurt you, but trusting them not to.  When you completely trust a person, without any doubt, you’ll automatically get one of two results - a FRIEND for life or a LESSON for life.  Either way there’s a positive outcome.  Either you confirm the fact that this person cares about you, or you get the opportunity to weed them out of your life and make room for those who do.  In the end you’ll discover who’s fake, who’s true, and who would risk it all for you.  And trust me, some people will totally surprise you.

  6. Someone continuously overlooks your worth.
    –  When you give yourself to someone who doesn’t respect you, you surrender pieces of your soul that you’ll never get back.  There comes a point when you have to let go and stop chasing some people.  If someone wants you in their life, they’ll find a way to put you there.  Sometimes you just need to let go and accept the fact that they don’t care for you the way you care for them.  Let them leave your life quietly.  Letting go is oftentimes easier than holding on.  We think it’s too hard to let go, until we actually do.  Then we ask ourselves, “Why didn’t I do this sooner?”

  7. You are never given a chance to speak your mind.
    – Sometimes an argument saves a relationship, whereas silence breaks it.  Speak up for your heart so that you won’t have regrets.  Life is not about making others happy.  Life is about being honest and sharing your happiness with others.

  8. You are frequently forced to sacrifice your happiness.
    – If you allow people to make more withdrawals than deposits in your life, you will be out of balance and in the negative before you know it.  Know when to close the account.  It’s always better to be alone with dignity than in a relationship that constantly requires you to sacrifice your happiness and self-respect.


  9. You truly dislike your current situation, routine, job, etc. – It’s better to be a failure at something you love than to succeed at doing something you hate.  Don’t let someone who gave up on their dreams talk you out of going after yours.  The best thing you can do in life is follow your heart.  Take risks.  Don’t just make the safe and easy choices because you’re afraid of what might happen.  If you do, nothing will ever happen.  Chances must be taken, mistakes must be made, and lessons must be learned.  It might be an uphill climb, but when you reach that mountaintop it will be worth every ounce of blood, sweat and tears you put into it.

  10. You catch yourself obsessing over, and living in, the past.
    – Eventually you will overcome the heartache, and forget the reasons you cried, and who caused the pain.  Eventually you will realize that the secret to happiness and freedom is not about control or revenge, but in letting things unfold naturally, and learning from your experiences over the course of time.  After all, what matters most is not the first, but the final chapter of your life, which unveils the details of how well you wrote your story.  So let go of the past, set yourself free, and open your mind to the possibility of new relationships and priceless experiences.

25 Beautifully Illustrated Thought-Provoking Questions...

A question that makes you think is worth asking…

At the cusp of a new day, week, month, or year, most of us take a little time to reflect on our lives by looking back over the past and ahead into the future.  We ponder the successes, failures and standout events that are slowly scripting our life’s story.  This process of self reflection helps us maintain a conscious awareness of where we’ve been and where we intend to go.  It is pertinent to the organization and preservation of our dreams, goals and desires.

If you would like to maximize the benefits of self reflection, our new sister site, Thought Questions, is for you.  A new illustrated thought question is posted daily.  We recommend that you read and reread these questions regularly when you have some quiet time to think.  After all, reflection is the key to progression.

Remember, these questions have no right or wrong answers.  Because asking the right questions is the answer.

Here’s a sample of 25 recent thought questions posted on the site:
1)

 2)
 3)
 4)
 5)
 6)
 7)
 8)
 9)
 10)
 11)
 12)
 13)
 14)
 15)
 16)
 17)
 18)
 19)
 20)
 21)
 22)
 23)
 24)
 25)

10 Things you should never say to a photographer...

Well not all photographers want to to be complimented but there are things that they really don't want to hear from you and these are the following:

1.Your camera takes really nice pictures!

2.Can't you just Photoshop it?

3. I wanted to invite you to (birthday party,wedding, or other important events). Bring your camera!

4.Why is the background all blurry like that?

5.The work of (Other photographer) is like this,can you make this shot like that?

6. Can you make it black and white but leave our eyes in color?

7. Geez! You charge that much? We only pay __ at ___!

8.Gosh! Your job must be easy! You just click a button all day!

9. What's the discount if I edit the pictures myself? There's so many editing softwares for pictures nowadays.

10. Can you take your watermark off the photos you posted in facebook? My mom wants to print them.

If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally...

Labels:
Without these small tests, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere safe and comfortable but dull and utterly pointless.

 If someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart, forgive them because they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to whom you open your heart.
If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because in a way, they are teaching you to love and how to open your heart and eyes to things.

We are living in a serioulsly funny world...

Labels:

If swimming is a good exercise to stay FIT, why are whales FAT??

Why is the place in a stadium where people SIT, called a STAND?

Why is that everyone wants to go to HEAVEN but nobody wants to DIE?

Shall I say that there is racial discrimination
even in chess as the WHITE piece is moved FIRST?

In our country,
we have FREEDOM of SPEECH,
then why do we have TELEPHONE BILLS?

If money doesn't grow on TREES then why do banks have BRANCHES?

Why doesn't GLUE stick to its BOTTLE?

Why do you still call it a BUILDING when its already BUILT?

If its true that we are here to HELP others, what are others HERE for?

If you aren't supposed to DRINK
and DRIVE why do bars have PARKING lots?

We all are Living in a seriously Funny World..!

100 Tips For a Simpler Life...

Labels:
I’ve been striving to simplify my life for many years now, and have recently (through my writing) been advising others how to do the same. In the process, I’ve learned that making little changes in our attitudes, habits, and environment can have a big impact. So today, I thought I’d compile a list of 100 ways to simplify your life – from the practical to the philosophical, and everything in between.

Of course, not every item on the list will work for every person reading it. However, I hope that you’ll find at least a little something that speaks to you, helps you save some time, space, and energy — and perhaps even increases your serenity and happiness!

AROUND THE HOUSE

1. Ditch the TV (or at least turn if off). If you’re an average viewer, you’ll save over a hundred precious hours each month. An added bonus: less exposure to commercials means less desire to buy stuff, and more money in your pocket.
2. Cancel magazine subscriptions.
Read the content online instead, and avoid accumulating a pile of reading material.

3. Read news online, instead of on paper.
You’ll save plenty of time, and plenty of trees, by reading only the articles that interest you.

4. Get rid of excessive furniture
, so there’s less to walk around, trip over, or move when you have to clean.

5. Opt for multi-functional furniture
, so you can satisfy your needs with fewer pieces.

6. Get rid of excessive décor
, so you’ll spend less time and effort cleaning around stuff.

7. Digitize your music.
You’ll eliminate the clutter of CDs, and have easier access to your music library.

8. Download movies instead of renting DVDs.
You’ll avoid the hassle of picking them up, dropping them off, or mailing them back.

9. Put items away immediately after use.
It takes a lot less effort than cleaning up piles of stuff later on.

10. Have a place for everything.
It makes it much easier to find things, and put them away.

11. Clean as you go.
Wipe up spills, and take care of little messes before they become big ones.

12. Devise a cleaning routine.
Streamline your chores into an ordered set of tasks for maximum efficiency.

13. Do laundry in large batches, instead of small ones.
It’ll save you time, and reduce your energy (and water) consumption.

14. Buy enough socks and underwear
to make it through a full laundry cycle, to avoid doing small “emergency” loads.

15. Wash towels less often.
They don’t need laundering on a daily basis; you’re clean when you use them, after all!

16. Consolidate hobby items in designated containers.
That way, all your supplies will be on hand when you need them.

17. If you start a new hobby, drop an out-of-favor one
(along with its equipment and supplies).

18. Adopt the “one in, one out” rule:
when you purchase something new, get rid of something old.

19. Don’t start collections.
Avoid the clutter, and save your money, by channeling your energy and creativity into something more productive.

20. Get rid of one item every day.
At the end of the year, you’ll have 365 less things to worry about!

WARDROBE AND STYLE

21. Hang up clothes, or put them in a hamper, as soon as you take them off. Avoid starting a “floordrobe” or piling them on a chair, and you’ll have less straightening up to do later.
22. Organize your clothes by category.
For example, hang all your pants, skirts, or shirts together so you can quickly find what you need.

23. Use containers to corral accessories
like jewelry, watches, or scarves, instead of scattering them about.

24. Choose versatile clothing.
The more ways you can wear something, the fewer items you’ll need.

25. Don’t be a fashion victim.
Chasing trends is a waste of time and money.

26. Know what flatters you.
You’ll avoid accumulating a closet full of wardrobe “mistakes.”

27. Don’t buy “fantasy” clothes.
In other words, if you’re not a social diva, skip the cocktail dresses – reserve your closet space for the stuff you’ll actually wear.

28. Get a simple, no-fuss haircut
; it’ll save tons of time in the morning.

29. Embrace your natural hair.
Don’t make it straight if it’s curly, curly if it’s straight, or brown if it’s gray.

30. Keep makeup as minimal as possible, or go without.
Most of us don’t need to look like supermodels on a daily basis!

31. Use multi-purpose products
(like a shampoo/body wash, or moisturizer plus sunscreen) to save time and eliminate bathroom clutter.

32. Standardize your grooming routine
, so you can get ready each morning with a minimum amount of fuss.

33. Don’t buy hope in a bottle
, and clutter your cabinets with half-used “miracle” lotions and potions.

34. Avoid unhealthy habits
, like smoking, drugs, or drinking in excess. You’ll look better now, and avoid a boatload of health problems down the road.

35. Let your inner beauty shine.
A pleasant countenance and radiant smile will make you more beautiful than any cosmetics.

KITCHEN AND DINING

36. Love those leftovers. Cook extra for dinner, and have it for lunch the next day.
37. Cook a week’s worth of meals at a time
, and freeze for later (Google “batch cooking” for recipes and instructions).

38. Plan your meals in advance.
You’ll spend less time staring into your refrigerator, wondering what to make.

39. Shop with a grocery list.
You’ll avoid making extra trips for forgotten items.

40. Make one-pot meals
, and drastically reduce your after-dinner cleanup.

41. Pare down your dishes, cups, and utensils to what you regularly use
. It’ll limit the amount of dishwashing that piles up in the sink.

42. Purge unnecessary gadgets and seldom-used equipment.
A large variety of meals can be made with basic pots and implements.

43. Eat healthy foods
(like whole grains, fruits, and vegetables), and you’ll avoid a wide variety of medical problems.

44. Keep your countertops clutter-free.
Cooking is so much easier when you’re not moving stuff out of the way to do it.

45. Develop a set of standard dishes (like a pasta, chicken, or tofu dish), and vary the sauces. That way, you won’t have to reinvent the wheel each night.

OFFICE AND TECH

46. Stop as much incoming paperwork as possible. Get off mailing lists, cancel catalogs, and sign up for online billing and statements. The less physical mail you have to deal with, the better!
47. Print as little as possible.
Don’t give yourself more stuff to file. Instead, print to a PDF file using free software like cutePDF or pdf995.

48. Digitize your paperwork.
It’ll take up less space, and give you easier access to it.

49. Backup to the cloud.
Use an online storage service, as an alternative to DVDs or an external hard drive.

50. Pay bills online.
It takes much less time than writing and mailing a check, and you won’t need to buy envelopes and stamps.

51. Bank online.
Transfer money without going to the bank, or standing in line waiting for a teller.

52. Automate recurring transactions.
It’s a great way to pay your rent, mortgage, or insurance payments without lifting a finger.

53. Automate investments.
Set up your brokerage account to buy a fixed dollar amount of a certain investment (like an index fund) on a regular schedule. It’ll smooth out the effects of market volatility on your portfolio, and keep you from making emotional decisions.

54. Stay out of debt.
Life is much simpler when you don’t have to worry about interest charges and minimum payments.

55. Purchase bundled services.
Buying telephone, tv, and internet services from the same company reduces your number of bills (and likely the amount you have to pay).

56. Telecommute.
Arrange to work from home at least once or twice a week, to save time and commuting costs.

57. Don’t let junk mail enter your office.
Keep a recycling bin by your front door, and dump junk mail and solicitations (without personal information) straight in.

58. Sort incoming paperwork immediately.
Separate it into “file,” “act on,” and “dispose of” piles for efficient handling.

59. Organize your digital files.
Develop a logical system of folders, so you won’t have to wade through hundreds of random files to find what you’re looking for.

60. Purge your bookmarks regularly.
The stuff you found interesting last month, or last week, may be of no use to you today. Don’t waste time scrolling through irrelevant stuff.

61. Quit Facebook (or don’t join).
It can be a huge digital commitment, and a major time sink. At the very least, limit the time you spend on it.

62. Limit the number of blogs you read.
When you subscribe to a new one, drop an old one, so as not to increase your time commitment.

63. Reduce your Twitter time.
Constant digital “chatter” can significantly reduce your productivity.

64. Check and answer email during defined periods.
When you’re distracted by constant incoming messages, it takes longer to complete the task at hand.

65. Take digital sabbaticals.
Disconnecting for a period of time – be it an hour, a day, or a weekend – can be quite liberating!

TIME MANAGEMENT

66. Learn to say no. It can be difficult, but will ensure you have enough time and energy for the stuff that really matters.
67. Delegate.
Give up trying to do everything yourself; get employees to help with projects, and children to help with chores.

68. Limit your commitments.
Don’t increase your number of obligations; drop old ones to make way for the new.

69. Right-size your expectations.
When you expect too much of yourself and others, disappointment and stress are often the result.

70. Choose your battles.
There are thousands of little things that just aren’t worth fighting for – let them go.

71. Go with the flow.
Instead of trying to control things, let them happen as they may.

72. Be flexible.
Adapt to the situation at hand, rather than insisting on doing things “your way.”

73. Forget about perfection.
For the vast majority of tasks, good enough is good enough.

74. Fix little problems before they become big ones.
A little effort now can save a lot of headaches later.

75. Consolidate your tasks.
It’s more efficient to do your ironing, pay your bills, and answer your emails in one sitting than in bits and pieces.

76. Consolidate your errands.
Plan your visits to the grocery store, dry cleaners, post office, etc., so you can take care of all of it in one trip.

77. Declutter your To Do list.
Purge any unimportant, unnecessary, or unfulfilling activities.

78. Ask for help or advice.
Reaching out to someone with more expertise can often save you hours (or days) of muddling through on your own.

79. Share your expertise with others.
An open exchange of information makes things easier for everyone.

80. Make it a goal to do less, not more.
Increase your productivity to free up your schedule, rather than jam more stuff into it.

ATTITUDE

81. Keep an open mind. Life is infinitely more interesting and pleasant when you’re willing to consider opinions and viewpoints that differ from your own.
82. Accept others for who they are.
Live and let live, and you’ll have much less to worry about.

83. Live in the present.
Don’t spend excessive hours pining for the past, or fretting about the future. Be here now.

84. Don’t meddle in other people’s business.
Concentrate on keeping your own life in order, and don’t worry about everyone else’s.

85. Forget about the Joneses.
Conspicuous consumption benefits nobody but the companies selling the goods. We’d be happier, more relaxed, and more satisfied if we disengaged from it entirely.

86. March to your own drummer.
Don’t feel obligated to follow the crowd, or live according to others’ expectations.

87. Think before you act.
We can often save ourselves a lot of trouble if we think about the consequences before acting on impulse.

88. Think before you speak.
Once you let some ill-considered words out of your mouth, you can’t get them back. Better to hold your tongue than have to deal with the fallout.

89. Don’t be overly sensitive.
Sometimes others don’t think before they speak. Let careless remarks roll off your back, not ruin your day.

90. Don’t hold grudges.
Forgiveness eases your stress and tension, and frees up your time and energy for more positive pursuits.

91. Don’t be a drama queen.
Making mountains out of molehills unduly complicates life.

92. Have an attitude of gratitude.
Be grateful for what you do have, instead of stressing over what you don’t.

93. Realize that you’re not living in the spotlight.
Most people are too wrapped up in their own lives to care (or notice) what you own, what you’re wearing, or how you look.

94. Embrace the concept of enough.
Once our needs are met, there’s usually little utility (or happiness) in acquiring more – by contrast, it often leads to cluttered homes and empty bank accounts.

95. Enjoy without owning.
Admire the objects in a shop window, the art in a gallery, the plants in a garden, without acquiring them for yourself. You’ll often get more pleasure from things when you don’t have the responsibility of ownership.

MISCELLANEOUS

96. Downsize your digs. A smaller home means less to maintain, less to clean, and less to pay in mortgage, utilities, and rent.
97. Go car-free. If you can walk, bike, or take public transit where you need to go, consider ditching your car. If you’re in a multi-car household, consider whether you can get by with one less car.
98. Avoid advertising like the plague.
When you don’t know an item exists, you won’t stress over desiring, acquiring, or paying for it.

99. Don’t shop unless you need something.
In other words, don’t browse stores, catalogs, or websites looking for something to need.

100. Make your own definition of “success.”
Raising a happy family or excelling at your job are better measures of success than status symbols and material accumulation.

Girlfriend to her Boyfriend: What Is Love ??

Labels:
Girlfriend to her Boyfriend: What Is Love ??
People Talk So Much About Love But I Don’t Really Know
What It Is . . . ?
BF (Replied):
When I Get Angry On You 'n You Try To Persuade Me
That Feeling Is Love,
When I Don’t Talk To You 'n You Get Worried About Me
That Is Called Love,
When You Care For Me Whenever I M Sick Or In Pain,
That Is Love,
'n
Finally When You Get Scared Even From The Thought Of Us
Being Apart From Each Other,
This Scary Feeling Is Called Love.. !

A. P. J. Abdul Kalam Quotes Collection...

Avul Pakir Jainulabdeen Abdul Kalam ( born 15 October 1931) usually referred to as A. P. J. Abdul Kalam, is a renowned aerospace engineer, professor (of Aerospace engineering), and first Chancellor of the Indian Institute of Space Science and Technology Thiruvananthapuram (IIST), who served as the 11th President of India from 2002 to 2007. During his term as President, he was popularly known as the People's President. Abdul Kalam was awarded the Bharat Ratna, India's highest civilian honour in 1997.

In May 2011, Kalam launched his mission for the youth of the nation called the What Can I Give Movement with a central theme to defeat the evil of corruption. Abdul Kalam better known as a scientist, also has special interest in the field of arts like writing Tamil poems, and also playing the music instrument Veenai.


Collection of A. P. J. Abdul Kalam Quotes
    I realized that if something is at stake, the human minds get ignited and the working capacity gets enhanced manifold.
    
    Death has never frightened me. After all, everyone has to go one day.
    
    Desire, when it stems from the heart and spirit, when it is pure and intense, possesses awesome electromagnetic energy. This energy is released into the ether each night, as the mind falls into the sleep state. Each morning it returns to the conscious state reinforced with the cosmic currents. That which has been imaged will surely and certainly be manifested.
    
    Total commitment is the common denominator among all successful men and women.
    
    I have learn that in a project, problems would always crop up; we should not allow problems to be our masters but we should defeat the problems. Then successes will sparkle.
    
    The difference between an energtic and a confused person is the difference in the way their minds handle their experiences. Man needs his difficulties because they are neccessary to enjoy success. All of us carry some sort of a super-intelligence within us. Let it be stimulated to enable us to examine our deepest thoughts, desires, and beliefs.
    
    The best performances are accomplished when you are relaxed and free of doubt.
    
    Thinking should become your capital asset, no matter whatever ups and downs you come across in your life.
    
    For achieving a good governance and great society, the starting point is righteousness in the heart.
    
    When you speak, speak the truth; perform when you promise; discharge your trust... Withhold your hands from striking, and from taking that which is unlawful and bad.
    
    I never doubted that the prayers in the temple reached the same destination as the ones offered in our mosque.
    
    One of the important functions of prayer, I believe, is to act as a stimulus to creative ideas. Within the mind are all the rescources required for successful living. Ideas are present in the consciousness, which when released and given scope to grow and take shape, can lead to successful events. God, our Creator, has stored within our minds and personalities, great potential strength and ability. Prayer help us to tap and develop these powers.
    
    You cannot expect a person to deliver results if you humiliate him, nor can you expect him to be creative if you abuse him or despise him.
    
    Good teaching emanates from research. The teachers love for research and their experience in research are vital for the growth of the institution. Any University is judged by the level and extent of the research work it accomplishes. This sets in a regenerative cycle of excellence. Experience of research leads to quality teaching and quality teaching imparted to the young in turn enriches the research.
    
    My message to you, young friends, is that education gives you wings to fly. Achievement comes out of fire in our sub-conscious mind that "I will win". So, each one of you assembled here and elsewhere, will have "Wings of Fire". The Wing of Fire will indeed lead to knowledge which will make you to fly as a Doctor, or an Engineer, or a scientist, or a teacher, or a political leader, or a bureaucrat or a diplomat or anything you want to be.
    
    How good is a leader? No better than his people and their commitment and participation in the project as full partners!
    
    The leader gives the credit for success to those who worked for it, and leader absorbs and owns the responsibility for the failure. This is the leadership.
    
    Today, about 800 million in India are living in villages, and hence any mission towards prosperity has to be inclusive of the rural regions. As a logical step, we have to address, how the sustainable development of villages can be achieved.
    
    The leader in any field, political, administrative, scientific, education, industry, judiciary, or any other human activity, should have the creative leadership capacity and courage to absorb the failure and give the successes to his or her team members.
    
    I consider Prof. Sarabhai as the Mahatma Gandhi of India Science - generating leadership qualities in his team and inspiring them through both ideas and example.
    
    To be a successful team leader, one has to stay back after the din and clutter of a working day to emerge better-equipped and ready to face a new day.
    
    The challenge, my young friends, is that you have to fight the hardest battle, which any human being can ever imagine to fight; and never stop fighting until you arrive at your destined place, that is, a UNIQUE YOU! Friends what will be your tools to fight this battle. There are four criteria for building a unique personality, what are they: have a great aim in life, continuously acquire the knowledge, work hard and persevere to realize the great achievement.
    
    To enable development of youth first and foremost, the teachers love for teaching is essential, with teaching as the soul of the teacher. The teacher must realize that they are responsible for shaping not just students but ignited youth who are the most powerful resource under the earth, on the earth and above the earth. With their full commitment to the great mission of teaching, the teacher transforms himself or herself as a great teacher only when he or she is capable of elevating the average student to high performance.
    
    You will agree with me that the first loyalty of a journalist must be to the people. A journalist should be independent from any individuals, parties and organizations. While there should be no compromise on truth-telling, media organizations should exercise restraint when it comes to reporting news that may affect national interest, social fabric and peace in the society.
    
    Whenever human beings find themselves alone, as a natural reaction, they start looking for company. Whenever they are in trouble, they look for someone to help them. Whenever they reach an impasse, they look for someone to show them the way out. Every recurrent anguish, longing, and desire finds its own special helper.
    
    The biggest problem Indian youth faced, i felt, was a lack of clarity of vision, a lack of direction.
    
    When I visualize the five minds of the future(1. Disciplinary mind, 2. Synthesizing mind, 3. Creative mind, 4. Respectful mind, 5. Ethical mind), I have a message for the all the teachers and students. Nurturing all the five minds is possible, if you build the following five capacities among the youth. What are those five capacities? The five capacities are: research and inquiry, creativity and innovation, use of high technology, entrepreneurial and moral leadership are the five capacities required to be built through the education process.

5 Funny Facts Of Life...

Labels:
1. Having 1 child makes you a parent but having 2 makes you a referee

2. Marriage is a relationship in which 1 person is always right and the other person is always husband.

3. You can't buy love but you pay heavily for it.

4. Wife and husband always compromise, husband admits that he's wrong and wife too agrees with him.

5. Our language is called mother tongue because the father never gets a chance to speak!

12 Universal Skills You Need to Succeed at Anything...

There are a lot of skills you don’t need.  You can be happy and successful without knowing how to rebuild a car’s engine, program a web application, or replace drywall.  Sure, these are useful skills to have, but they aren’t absolutely necessary.

There are other skills, however, that can’t be avoided – skills that tie into various aspects of everyday life, that are not only useful, but totally indispensable.  For instance, you can’t get far in today’s world without being able to read or write.  And today the ability use a computer proficiently is simply assumed.

In this article we’re going to skip the super basic skills like reading, driving, and using a computer, and discuss twelve slightly more advanced skills that are woefully under-taught, and universally applicable.  Let’s take a look…

1.  Prioritizing and time management. – If success depends on effective action, effective action depends on the ability to focus your attention where it is needed most, when it is needed most.  This is the ability to separate the important from the unimportant, which is a much needed skill in all walks of life, especially where there are ever increasing opportunities and distractions.

2.  Keeping a clean, organized space. – Successful people have systems in place to help them find what they need when they need it – they can quickly locate the information required to support their activities.  When you’re disorganized, that extra time spent looking for a phone number, email address or a certain file forces you to drop your focus.  Once it’s gone, it takes a while to get it back – and that’s where the real time is wasted.  Keeping both your living and working spaces organized is crucial.

3.  Critical thinking and information analysis. – We are living in the information age where, on a daily basis, we are constantly exposed to an ever growing and rapidly changing pool of information.  Being able to evaluate this information, sort the valuable from the trivial, analyze its relevance and meaning, and relate it to other information is a priceless skill with universal applicability.

4.  Logical, informed decision making. – Decision making is simply knowing what to do based on the information available.  Being able to respond quickly and effectively with the information you have in your head is essential to accomplishing anything.

5.  Using Google proficiently for online research. – You don’t have to know everything, but you should be able to quickly and painlessly find out what you need to know.  Google is a gateway to nearly infinite knowledge; it has indexed websites containing information on just about everything and everyone.  If you’re having trouble finding something using Google, it’s time to learn a few new tricks.

6. Basic accounting and money management. – It’s a simple fact that our modern society is governed by the constant exchange of money.  Money allows you to maintain a roof over your head and put food on the table each night.  Knowing how to properly manage your money – tracking and recording your expenses and income, saving and investing – is not only an important skill for thriving, it’s an important skill that helps you survive.

7. Effective communication and negotiating. – Give the people in your life the information they need rather than expecting them to know the unknowable.  Don’t try to read other people’s minds, and don’t make other people try to read yours.  Most problems, big and small, within a family, friendship, or business relationship, start with bad communication.  Speak honestly, and then give others a voice and show them that their words matter.  And remember that compromise and effective negotiating are vital parts of effective communication.

8. Relaxation. – Stress leads to poor health, poor decision-making, poor thinking, and poor socialization.  So be attentive to your stress level and take short breaks when you need to.  Slow down.  Breathe.  Give yourself permission to pause, regroup and move forward with clarity and purpose.  When you’re at your busiest, a brief recess can rejuvenate your mind and increase your productivity.  These short breaks will help you regain your sanity, and allow you to reflect on your recent actions so you can be sure they’re in line with your goals.

9.  Proficient writing and note-taking. – The written word isn’t going away; it is used in every walk of life.  Learning to write proficiently so that others can understand you is critical.  Also, using your writing skills to take useful notes is one of the most productive things you can do, regardless of the task at hand.  Writing things down – taking notes – helps us remember what we hear, see, or read when we’re learning something new, or trying to remember something specific.

10. Relationship networking. – In a world dominated by constant innovation and information exchange, relationship networking creates the channel through which ideas and information flow, and in which new ideas are shared, discussed and perfected.  A large relationship network, carefully cultivated, can be leveraged to meet the right people, find jobs, build businesses, learn about new trends, spread ideas, etc.

11. Positivity. – Research shows that although we think that we act because of the way we feel, in fact, we often feel because of the way we act.  A great attitude always leads to great experiences.  People who think optimistically see the world as a place packed with endless opportunities, especially in trying times.  Be positive, smile, and make it count.  Pretend today is going to be great.  Do so, and it will be.

12. Self-discipline. – Self-discipline is a skill.  It is the ability to focus and overcome distractions.  It involves acting according to what you think instead of how you feel in the moment.  It often requires sacrificing the pleasure and thrill for what matters most in life.  Therefore it is self-discipline that drives you to succeed in the long-term.

12 Things You Should Be Able to Say About Yourself...


You only live once,
But if you do it right, once is enough.
- Mae West
You know you’re on the right track when you can repeat each of the following headlines to yourself, honestly.  (And if you can’t, this list gives you something positive to work on.)

1.  I am following my heart and intuition.

Don’t be pushed by your problems.  Be led by your dreams.  Live the life you want to live.  Be the person you want to remember years from now.  Make decisions and act on them.  Make mistakes, fall and try again.  Even if you fall a thousand times, at least you won’t have to wonder what could have been.  At least you will know in your heart that you gave your dreams your best shot.

Each of us has a fire in our hearts burning for something.  It’s our responsibility in life to find it and keep it lit.  This is your life, and it’s a short one.  Don’t let others extinguish your flame.  Try what you want to try.  Go where you want to go.  Follow your own intuition.  Dream with your eyes open until you know exactly what it looks like.  Then do at least one thing every day to make it a reality.

And as you strive to achieve your goals, you can count on there being some fairly substantial disappointments along the way.  Don’t get discouraged, the road to your dreams may not be an easy one.  Think of these disappointments as challenges – tests of persistence and courage.  At the end of the road, more often than not, we regret what we didn’t do far more than what we did.  Read Quitter.

2.  I am proud of myself.

You are your own best friend and your own biggest critic.  Regardless of the opinions of others, at the end of the day the only reflection staring back at you in the mirror is your own.  Accept everything about yourself – EVERYTHING!  You are you and that is the beginning and the end – no apologies, no regrets.

People who are proud of themselves tend to have passions in life, feel content and set good examples for others.  It requires envisioning the person you would like to become and making your best efforts to grow.

Being proud isn’t bragging about how great you are; it’s more like quietly knowing that you’re worth a lot.  It’s not about thinking you’re perfect – because nobody is – but knowing that you’re worthy of being loved and accepted.  All you have to do is be yourself and live the story that no one else can live – the story of your own unique life.  Be proud, be confident, you never know who has been looking at you wishing they were you.

3.  I am making a difference.

Act as if what you do makes a difference.  It does.

Is it true that we all live to serve?  That by helping others we fulfill our own destiny?  The answer is a simple ‘yes.’  When you make a positive impact in someone else’s life, you also make a positive impact in your own life.  Do something that’s greater than you – something that helps someone else to be happy or to suffer less.

You are only one, but you are one.  You cannot do everything, but you can do something.  Smile and enjoy the fact that you made a difference – one you’ll likely remember forever.

4.  I am happy and grateful.

Happiness is within you, in your way of thinking.  How you view yourself and your world are mindful choices and habits.  The lens you choose to view everything through determines how you feel about yourself and everything that happens around you.

Being grateful will always make you happy.  If you’re finding it hard to be grateful for anything, sit down close your eyes and take a long slow breath and be grateful for oxygen.  Every breath you take is in sync with someone’s last.

5.  I am growing in to the best version of me.

Judy Garland once said, “Always be a first rate version of yourself instead of a second rate version of somebody else.”  Live by this statement.  There is no such thing as living in someone else’s shoes.  The only shoes you can occupy are your own.  If you aren’t being yourself, you aren’t truly living – you’re merely existing.

Remember, trying to be anyone else is a waste of the person you are.  Embrace that individual inside you that has ideas, strengths and beauty like no one else.  Be the person you know yourself to be – the best version of you – on your terms.  Improve continuously, take care of your body and health, and surround yourself with positivity.  Become the best version of you.

6.  I am making my time count.

Time is the most valuable constituent of life.  Make the time for what does matter today.  Really being in the moment, finding passion in your life, seeing the world and traveling, or just seeing the world that’s around you right now, being with great people, doing amazing things, eating amazing food and savoring life’s little pleasures.

Remember, your time is priceless, but it’s free. You can’t own it, but you can use it.  You can spend it, but you can’t keep it.  Once you’ve lost it you can never get it back.  You really do only have a short period to live.  So let your dreams be bigger than your fears and your actions louder than your words.  Make your time count!

7.  I am honest with myself.

Be honest about what’s right, as well as what needs to be changed.  Be honest about what you want to achieve and who you want to become.  Be honest with every aspect of your life, always.  Because you are the one person you can forever count on.

Search your soul, for the truth, so that you truly know who you are.  Once you do, you’ll have a better understanding of where you are now and how you got here, and you’ll be better equipped to identify where you want to go and how to get there.  Read The Four Agreements.

8.  I am good to those I care about.

In human relationships distance is not measured in miles, but in affection.  Two people can be right next to each other, yet miles apart.  So don’t ignore someone you care about, because lack of concern hurts more than angry words.  Stay in touch with those who matter to you.  Not because it’s convenient, but because they’re worth the extra effort.

When was the last time you told your family and close personal friends that you loved them?  Just spending a little time with someone shows that you care, shows that they are important enough that you’ve chosen — out of all the things to do on your busy schedule — to find the time for them.  Talk to them.  Listen to them.  Understand them.

Many times it’s our actions, not just our words that really speak what our heart feels for another.

9.  I know what unconditional love feels like.

Whether your love is towards a child, a lover, or another family member, know the feeling of giving love and not expecting anything in return – this is what lies at the heart of unconditional love.  Life through unconditional love is a wondrous adventure that excites the very core of our being and lights our path with delight.  This love is a dynamic and powerful energy that lifts us through the most difficult times.

Love is beautiful and unpredictable.  It begins with ourselves, for without self-love, we cannot know what true love can be.  In loving ourselves, we allow the feeling to generate within us and then we can share it to everyone and everything around us.  When you love unconditionally, it isn’t because the person you love is perfect, it’s because you learn to see an imperfect person perfectly.

10.  I have forgiven those who once hurt me.

We’ve all been hurt by another person at some point or another – we were treated badly, trust was broken, hearts were hurt.  And while this pain is normal, sometimes that pain lingers for too long.  We relive the pain over and over, letting them live rent-free in our head and we have a hard time letting go.

Grudges are a waste of perfect happiness, it causes us to miss out on the beauty of life as it happens.  To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover the prisoner was you.

11.  I take full accountability for my life.

Own your choices and mistakes, and be willing to take the necessary steps to improve upon them.  Either you take accountability for your life or someone else will.  And when they do, you’ll become a slave to their ideas and dreams instead of a pioneer of your own.

You are the only one who can directly control the outcome of your life.  And no, it won’t always be easy.  Every person has a stack of obstacles in front of them.  But you must take accountability for your situation and overcome these obstacles.  Choosing not to is choosing a lifetime of mere existence.  Read The Road Less Traveled.

12.  I have no regrets.

This one is simply a culmination of the previous eleven…

Follow your heart.  Be true to yourself.  Do what makes you happy.  Be with who makes you smile.  Laugh as much as you breathe.  Love as long as you live.  Say what you need to say.  Offer a helping hand when you’re able.  Appreciate all the things you do have.  Smile.  Celebrate your small victories.  Learn from your mistakes.  Realize that everything is a lesson in disguise.  Forgive.  And let go of the things you can’t control.

100 Ways to Love Each Other...


I think we dream so we don’t have to be apart so long.
If we’re in each other’s dreams, we can be together all the time.

Expressing love to our partners, children, family and friends not only strengthens communication it also improves connection and intimacy. Too often we get distracted by the trivial and forget how important it is to nurture our relationships.


Finding simple, but heartfelt ways to love each other is a source of encouragement for the giver and the receiver. By loving consciously, we discover Love is the force that puts the world back together when it feels like it’s coming apart. It provides a sense of contentment and gratitude deep in our hearts and is the voice that tells us, “Everything will be okay.”

Consider these ways to love each other and help create a world where beauty and grace can fill the hearts of everyone willing to give and then receive Love’s gentle power:

  1. Don’t wait to say, “I love you.” Tell someone today, right now.
  2. Tell your child you believe in her or him.
  3. When you ask a question, listen to the answer.
  4. Leave an unexpected note.
  5. Admit when you are wrong.
  6. Do what you say you’re going to do.
  7. Be generous with compliments and judicious with complaints.
  8. Forgive, let go and move on.
  9. Smile when someone touches your heart.
  10. Prepare and share a meal together.
  11. Tell your parent one thing he or she did that inspired you.
  12. Treat a friend to lunch.
  13. Seek to understand first, before asking to be understood.
  14. Hold onto a hug one moment longer than expected.
  15. Be an encourager.
  16. Show patience, even in your busiest moment.
  17. Help a friend find something that has been lost.
  18. When someone is on your mind, pick up the phone and let them know.
  19. Tell your wife how much you love her every night.
  20. Tell your husband you are proud of him every day.
  21. Be faithful to your partner even when you think Temptation has made its case.
  22. Pray together.
  23. Turn on a light to interrupt the darkness.
  24. When asked for feedback; give it honestly, but with compassion.
  25. Never forget the love you have been given; treasure it; respect it and hold onto it.
  26. Put your child’s needs ahead of your own.
  27. Show respect and expect respect in return.
  28. Be comfortable in the silence.
  29. Grab a work-out together.
  30. Let your wife know you would marry her again.
  31. Read to your child.
  32. Extend a hand when there is a need.
  33. Make time to just play!
  34. Don’t gloat when you are right.
  35. Let them see you being vulnerable; it will validate their own vulnerability.
  36. Call your mom or dad often and offer some real insight into your life.
  37. Climb the mountain and then enjoy the view together.
  38. Never use love, or the threat of withholding love, as a weapon.
  39. Be the rock in the storm.
  40. Remember the words you use can encourage and they can hurt, too.
  41. Do the right thing, always.
  42. Be the first to stand up for your child.
  43. Look for opportunities to make a loved one’s day a little easier.
  44. Say, “Thank you.”
  45. Open your heart to receive a loved one’s best effort.
  46. Carry your friend; but know when it’s time to put him down.
  47. When angry, think about how your words will be received ten minutes into the future.
  48. Linger at the dinner table after the meal has been eaten.
  49. Know when to offer space and respect boundaries.
  50. Remember that everyone deserves a second chance.
  51. Go for a walk and leave the iPods at home.
  52. Diffuse embarrassment with laughter.
  53. Be willing to fall in love with your partner over and over.
  54. Leave work at work.
  55. Receive the compliment – it’s a gift created especially for you.
  56. Your children hear everything; give them something worth repeating.
  57. Speak your mind, but with a tender heart.
  58. Share. Honor. Trust. Love and then repeat.
  59. Provide a safe place to rest.
  60. Notice the small things and recognize them.
  61. Cover your partner with more of what they want.
  62. Trust a friend.
  63. Don’t offer or try to fix a loved one.
  64. Place your partner’s hand inside of yours.
  65. Laugh together.
  66. Call when you are running late.
  67. Watch home videos or look through family photo albums together.
  68. Take the good with the bad.
  69. Ask your child for his opinion.
  70. Save enough energy for a good-night kiss.
  71. Compliment your partner in front of others.
  72. Become the loudest cheerleader.
  73. Live in the here and now with those closest to your heart.
  74. Tell your loved ones what they mean to you.
  75. Be a model for healthy living.
  76. When your partner comes home stop what you are doing and greet her.
  77. Demonstrate self-acceptance and self-love.
  78. Wait for the “rest of the story” before coming to an opinion.
  79. Make the relationship a priority.
  80. Show your gratitude.
  81. Refrain from expecting perfection.
  82. Be generous with your most valuable resource – your time.
  83. Help a loved one to feel special on their birthday.
  84. Love each one for who they are today.
  85. Solve problems together.
  86. Let them see the real you.
  87. Cry together.
  88. Let a loved one know that he or she is making your life better.
  89. Do the unexpected.
  90. Choose true connection over mediocrity.
  91. Never insult your spouse, child and friend.
  92. Plan a family night.
  93. Know when to disconnect from the computer and re-connect.
  94. Give gifts from your heart.
  95. Acknowledge your partner’s worth.
  96. Stop trying so hard to be the perfect parent and just be who you are.
  97. Lift up your friend.
  98. Let your parents know you will continue the positive family traditions.
  99. Remember the art of patience.
  100. Simply love and love simply.